Meet your birth guide
Hi, I’m Hailey Joy Aliff
I’m a mama of four, doula, and midwife-trained birth worker. I blend faith and evidence so you can release fear, trust your body, and prepare for a joyful, confident birth.
This is my husband, Jeremy, and our four kiddos
Emerson, Koa, Harvest, & Jude!
We’ve been married for 11 years. For the first 7 years, we struggled to conceive.
We knew before getting married that we would adopt one day, so we first became parents through the miracle of adoption!
Emerson means “brave,” and her birth mother (we keep in touch!) gave her the middle name “faith.” It’s wild to think she’s about to be big sis to three little siblings!
When Emerson was 15 months old, I miraculously got pregnant with our son, Koa Bane, “brave; long-awaited one.”
Then 15 months later, along came Harvest Joy — “Those who sow in tears will reap a harvest of joy.” (Psalm 126:5).
And again… 15 months later my youngest, Jude Winston, was born under the most glorious, blazing sunset on my back deck in northern Idaho — a birth I quite literally dreamed of for YEARS!
Why I believe birth is God’s gift to women
The calling to preserve birth and experience God’s hand in it started for me long before I ever carried life in my womb or gave birth myself. In fact, it started as a young child as I observed home births alongside my mama who was a lay midwife. Before I was even in high school I believed in birth, was awe-inspired by it, and knew it was God’s gift to women (not a curse).
I pursued this calling into college shadowing OB’s and DO’s and interning at clinics trying to figure out which direction I would take being a birthworker. After a year of seeing mainly medicated births and surgical births, I decided I would pursue midwifery school.
Before starting midwifery school, I imagined I would start natural birth clinics in 3rd world countries. By the time I graduated, I realized that first world countries might have a bigger need. progress has certainly not done better for the design of birth.
In 1989 (the year I was born) c-section rates were at 19%. A lot has changed since then and as of 2022, the U.S. sits at an average of 32.1%. According to the CDC, the overall cesarean delivery rate in the U.S. increased 60% between 1996 and 2009. It's safe to say we’ve lost touch with the natural process of how things were meant to go and they are only declining.
I graduated from midwifery school a year after getting married and we could not wait to have kids. Jeremy even wrote in his wedding vows “I can’t wait to make a million babies with you” and we really thought we would be parents soon. SEVEN years went by and I became more involved with and enthralled by birth... but the longing to experience it myself ached.
I shadowed three different midwives and finished all my numbers for licensure. I realized, though, that my heart was in my doula business and childbirth education ministry so I held off on getting my license. The medical role in birth didn’t fuel me as much as the support role in birth ~ both are needed and have their special place and I was niching down into mine!
After answering the call to adopt our daughter, our "springtime" came and I became pregnant with my first son. I experienced birth in the way that I already knew it was meant to be. Two years later, in the birth of Harvest, I got to experience the joy-within even deeper. And then Jude's birth truly solidified what it can be like when you partner with God and invite Him into the entire process of birth (starting even with the planning). When I say I look forward to giving birth, I mean it. It's like a glimpse of heaven touching earth every single time.
I’m so glad you’re here. I’ve prayed for you to be here and it’s my honor to pass this birth knowledge onto you.
— Hailey joy